1972: Trans Actress Makes Her Debut in Empowering Scene in John Waters Film

When she was living in Baltimore, Elizabeth Coffey Williams made the acquaintance of filmmaker John Waters. Before long, she would be featured in one of his most famous films – in an empowering role.



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Living As This Peaceful Moment

  • The present moment is not a place of worldly concerns if we are really there. Wherever we are, with presence of mind, we can let go of worldly matters…..pride, desire, anger, the need to control others. –Ben Connelly


  • What was born must die. Only the unborn is deathless. Find what is it that never sleeps and never wakes, and whose pale reflection is our sense of “I”. –Nisargadatta


  • Renounce and enjoy. –Mahatma Gandhi

  • Everything changes once we identify with being the witness to the story, instead of the actor in it. –Ram Dass


  • Being forever perfect and complete, we need no reunion with God because God already is our every act, thought, movement. –Ernest Holmes


  • The first thing that happens when you enter the present moment is you become more aware of your sense perceptions, you become alert. Many times you forget, but when you know you forgot, you can return. –Eckhart Tolle


  • Affirmation: I improve through all experience.


  • Breathing the words below on the in and out breath trains mind in both focus and direction and letting go…







These quotes are shared by Robert Rannigan, LPC, to touch, inspire, and motivate moms and dads to reflect upon what is important in their lives and those of their spouses and children. The role of fathers has been slowly changing over the years. Dads are now expected to be more emotionally involved with their kids and–most of all–desire more emotional closeness with them. To do this, men have to establish a sense of safety, certainty, and knowing within their own internal environments. Through increased mindfulness and focus, they will then be able to create these very things for themselves, as well as for the families they love.

Grouped by a common theme, “Quotes for Parents” bring words of wisdom, almost daily, from great minds—current and old—into the lives of modern parents (and the rest of us) to nudge them (and us) ever so closer to the mindfulness and self-awareness we should all be practicing every single day.

These quotes are provided as encouragement to observe the power of words and to choose your words carefully. In the morning, choose one (or some of their impactful words) to meditate upon and guide you in a positive direction as you navigate the day’s challenges.


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What Is Left After Death

Death, the universal inevitable, is barely understood.

Science monitors the signs of life, and history records the time of their cessation.

There is breath and then, there is no breath.

The doctor says, “I’m sorry,” and moves on.

Time now exists for us in terms of before and after.

But what happens in the moment remains a mystery.

There is a tear in the fabric.

A flap opens.

The departing spirit escapes as it closes, leaving a perfect surface and an invisible scar that only the bereaved can feel.

The tear on the surface disappears.

But the mirror tear, the one inside the heart, does not.

The change in the living brought on by the change in the dead remains.

We bury the body, fill the grave with dirt, but the gaping hole, the grievous wound, remains open.

Open and raw.

Deepened by shallow thoughts.

Widened by narrow-minded platitudes.

Caved in by the sudden avalanche of memory.

Absorbing tears the way water sinks in to beach sand as a child pours from her bucket.

And the hole never quite closes.

We stitch it up, as best we can, eager to feel whole again.

But the moment we do, start to feel whole again, we finger the jagged, bumpy scar with perverse curiosity until it throbs, overcome by the guilt of forgetting fused with the need to remember.

Pain cannot be buried in a box or sealed in an urn.

It must be taken out every so often, so we can feel its weight, its heft in our hands, its sharp contours that cut to the bone.

Acknowledging the suffering, refusing its denial, and embracing the excruciating growth it brings, is the only way to hold on to the joy the pain took from us, to carry it forward, and to be free to create joy in our remaining moments, knowing, that at any moment, we may lose that joy again.

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On Getting Your Feet Washed

Welcome to my ‘Layman’s Lectionary’ series where I stumble my way through the liturgical year and share my layman’s testimonies and confessions on modern culture and daily life as it corresponds to scripture.

Maundy Thursday

Click here for today’s Revised Common Lectionary readings.


It’s Maundy Thursday. In the tradition I follow, it’s the day we gather and wash each other’s feet.

[Aside] I pray that my church is well stocked up on Purell because I’m much more of a germaphobe than Jesus was (though, if he had Purell in his day, who knows…). I digress…

If we haven’t got the message about the one-way direction of love from God to us up until this point, this story should drive it home.

Here we have God personified in Jesus washing the feet of his disciples — some of whom he knows will blatantly betray him.

God’s Love…

One way.

One way.

One way.

(Sorry, I have to repeat this to get it under my thick skull and into my heavy heart.)

From the gospel reading of John…

Peter said to him, “You will never wash my feet.” Jesus answered, “Unless I wash you, you have no share with me.”

That last part there, Unless I wash you, you have no share with me. In other words, unless you open your heart to my love and grace, nothing you do matters — no matter how self-righteous it may seem (my translation, of course).

So if I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet.

For I have set you an example, that you also should do as I have done to you.

Though God’s grace only goes in one direction, it never stops with us.

The fruits of this grace are multiplied through the faithful souls that receive it (‘faithful soul’ doesn’t mean ‘someone who goes to church every Sunday’, it means ‘one who grasps for abounding and steadfast love from the Divine Other at the ground of their being even when they feel they don’t deserve it’).

Happy Maundy Thursday.



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Top Ideas to Surprise Your Wife or a Partner

Entering relationships is very blissful, but it is the easiest bit of the entire relationship building game. The bigger challenge is to retain the spark in the relationship. Many couples struggle with issues and complain about losing the spark in the relationship after a certain period of time. Although it does not mean that they are no more in love, often added responsibilities such as raising kids and managing the household take a toll on the relationship and the mutual love takes a back seat. While some men do neglect the lack of emotional element in the relationship it hits women hard when they realize that they are no more loved just because there are no more dinner dates. What many people do not understand is that you can easily overcome this emotional crisis by doing simple little things on a daily basis to make her happy and feel special.



They say diamonds are a woman’s best friend, and that is actually true. A woman’s love for jewelry is universal. Their individual tastes in jewelry may vary but the love of jewelry is common. The best thing about jewelry is that it gives you a lot of flexibility in terms of style and budget. You can go for something very over-the-top or something very subtle. You can choose a piece studded with expensive sapphires and diamonds and you can also get it replicated in Sterling Silver and rhinestones to get a similar feel in much lesser amount. Moreover, Jewelry pieces are amazing keepsakes. They will remind her of you for as long as it stays with her. You can also get something customized and personalized if you do not wish to get a regular off-the-rack piece.



Although watches are often considered as a subset of jewelry, they have a significance of their own. Over the years watches has gained immense popularity as a symbol of status, class, luxury, and elegance. That is exactly why watches are an important part of a woman’s attire. Bracelet watches have recently been a huge hit and she would fall in love with a classy bracelet watch that comes her way unexpectedly. Tudor watches have some great collection of fashionable ladies watches that you might like to check out.


Designer Outfit

You might wonder how come a dress can surprise a woman. However, unless she is rich enough to shop Versace gowns and Burberry tops every day and any day, she will definitely be surprised if you will give her one out of the blue. Who would not want a cocktail dress or even a top designed by Christina Dior or Coco Chanel? Just try to figure out who her favorite designer is to make it even better.


Spa Day

Women generally have a lot on their plate, especially when they are in a parental role or looking after the household. With work commitments, running errands, managing home chores, cooking, keeping the house in order and looking after the kids, pets and other dependents drains out their energy. They deserve a time when they can relax and rejuvenate their mind, body, and soul and feel good about themselves. Book her an all-paid Spa Treat at her favorite spa and her favorite services. You can throw a spa party and also invite her friends over, book an intimate spa date for both of you as a couple or just let her enjoy in solitude, Whatever fits her mood and your pocket.


Short Getaway

When life is too hectic, a quick retreat to the mountains or at a secluded beach resort is the best thing to happen. It becomes even more amazing when the trip is an all-expense paid gift by your loved ones. Book her a quick getaway to a place she would love. If you have not gotten a chance to spend some together, this could be the best way to have some alone time together. Alternatively, you can also let her go with some of her besties.


Extended Holiday

Everyone has a holiday bucket list that they fantasize. Whether it is Cape Town or Interlaken for her if your pocket allows take her to a luxury vacation. From Caribbean Cruises to African Safaris to Swiss Alps, there are numerous super cool destinations that you might want to explore together.


Do a Chore for Her

You do not need to be super rich to be able to make your spouse or partner happy. There are very small things that you can do on a daily basis. With so many things to do, there are certain things that a woman might not like to do. Even women who are fond of homemaking do despise doing certain things. It could be anything from doing dishes or deep cleaning the bathroom to something as small as folding the laundry. She would be in for a pleasant surprise the day she finds her dishes done and the kitchen spike and span or having her laundry folded and set in the closet. It will not cost a dime out of your pocket but will give out a super adorable gesture that would make her immensely happy.


Plan a Date

Go watch your favorite flick at the cinema or just snuggle up at home and watch a movie together. Movies are fun and a great way to bond together. You can top it up with a dinner date. Take her out to her favorite restaurant or eatery or cook her something yourself. You can even order something if you have plans to stay at home but make sure to make it special. Some couple also likes to do their dates a bit differently such as going to a gaming zone or watching a stand-up comedy show.


Girls Night Out

Just like you would wish to hang out with your guy friends over a FIFA Game somewhere or simply over drinks at a bar, women also crave for a girlie outing. It could be anything from a simple dinner and movies to something more adventurous. Most women are unable to live at that time because of their commitments with home and family. Offer to look after the house and kids on a weekend night while she goes out and has some much-needed fun with her friends.


Send her a Boquet

Flowers can lighten up anyone’s mood. Women love being given flowers and chocolates as a sign of affection. You do not have to wait for your anniversary or Valentine’s Day to send her those roses. Send her a bouquet and chocolates along with a love note out of the blue when she is least expecting it.

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