Anxiety and the Modern Man

Anxiety orders are common among adults living in the United States.

But how does the modern man handle anxiety? If you look at the findings of the National Institute on Mental Health, not well.

Many mental illnesses affect both men and women however men may be less likely to talk about their feelings and seek help. Some men with depression or an anxiety disorder hide their emotions and may appear to be angry or aggressive. Some men may turn to drugs or alcohol to try to cope with their emotional issues. – National Institute on Mental Health(1)

I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. I am on three different medications to combat anxiety, and I also walk to help alleviate these symptoms. Before I began receiving treatment, I turned to drugs and alcohol to cover up my symptoms, which in itself, caused a lot more problems in functioning. After receiving treatment and being instilled with coping mechanisms from a counselor, I am able to function fairly well day to day, without the use of drugs or alcohol.

Here are some common symptoms of Generalized Anxiety Disorder. (GAD)

“People with generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) display excessive anxiety or worry, most days for at least 6 months, about a number of things such as personal health, work, social interactions, and everyday routine life circumstances. The fear and anxiety can cause significant problems in areas of their life, such as social interactions, school, and work.

Generalized anxiety disorder symptoms include:

  • Feeling restless, wound-up, or on-edge
  • Being easily fatigued
  • Having difficulty concentrating; mind going blank
  • Being irritable
  • Having muscle tension
  • Difficulty controlling feelings of worry
  • Having sleep problems, such as difficulty falling or staying asleep, restlessness, or unsatisfying sleep”

National Institute of Mental Health(2)

If you think that you or a close one has GAD, I recommend trying to start a conversation with them (if safe) especially if they seem to be using substances to what seems like just to be around people.

I considered myself to be a social drinker for years until I realized I was just incredibly anxious in social situations. The problem was, that alcohol was making me sicker, not helping me. Prescription medications and in-depth counseling can provide a balanced approach to help alleviate anxiety problems, and help the modern man obtain better relationships, both with himself and with others.

Let me say, that having and working through anxiety is certainly not, “Unmanly” as its one of the hardest things to do. If any of this article sounds familiar, I urge you to reach out.

To my Healing

The name of determination
has embedded
itself into my furious

I Bury storms
into my back,
collapsing hunger
into pebbles;

surviving on silk,
while granite in approach.

I shy cats-eyes
away from the hourglass
of my dusk-burned pride.

My fury feeds on hushed
stings, separating
myopia from the self
with Sun-baked hands.

Choirs of creation

croon emerald melodies

from my Coriander eyes,

crying for the color Crimson,
which cradles my trauma no longer

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Are We in the Middle of Another Gilded Age? (A Call for Submissions)

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The Enveloping Sadness and Loss of Depression

There was a part of my life that I look back on with fond memories. I was young, 21, free, and ready to mingle. The parties, the alcohol, and oh boy — the women.

From about 20 until about 22 were the wildest and most free moments of my life. I can honestly say there was a happier time in my youth. The cost of living was low and I was earning enough to party and also live and survive comfortably. Life was good. I had good friends, a decent job and a lifestyle that I enjoyed.

Then, of course, all of that was ripped away from me one fateful month. You see, nearing the end of my 21 years of life I decided to go on a weeks binge on alcohol. That’s right. Drink constantly until it was time to go back to work.

So, the next six days of my life I spent completely inebriated. Then as the close of the week loomed I decided to pack it all up, just stay sober. The resulting trauma to my body was devastating, and safe to say that I ended up in psychiatric hospital for around about a month. After such I could no longer feel safe around people in my community, and wasn’t able to fulfill the requirements of my job anymore. I had to pack up my stuff and move home. I quit my job and left for Scotland.

To put some context on this I had previously moved from Scotland where I was born. I moved down to Southern England at 19 where I lived there for 3 years. I had built a life for myself and now I was planning to rip myself away from this and go back to Scotland where all that was left for me was tumbleweed. This was the reality that I was facing. I was going to be facing a hard time. I needed to be closer to my family because I was ill and needed help.

The first to go was my sense of belonging. The hard-fought feeling that I belonged somewhere was stripped away from me and all that was left was a feeling of deep loss, a sense of grief that I couldn’t describe, something that I was desperately trying to cling onto but I couldn’t touch it because it wasn’t there anymore. I had left my childhood home long ago and most of those that I knew had moved on since then too – I was left with no-one. Just a deep sense of loss, and sadness.

After a few weeks, I began to miss my friends and my social life. Back home I was able to visit my friends when I was bored or had nothing to do. Here, I had nothing. Perhaps a friend that remembered me could stomach my presence long enough to be social with me, but we weren’t good friends. Not the type that mattered anyway. The few good friends I had left in Scotland were off at University and exploring their boundaries, and the times I was able to spend with them, thankful I am, but few and far between they were. I was out with my friends in England every god damn day and down at the pub mingling with the best. Up here I was lucky to see someone at least once a week if I was lucky. I’m not blaming my friends though, they were busy, they had lives too.

This is when I learned about depression, and the deep sadness and worthlessness it can feed. I didn’t always feel sad and worthless. At one point in my life, I could say I was someone, that I mattered, that I had a place in society. Now? I had no fucking clue. I was no-one. No-one cared, no-one knew I existed apart from my family. Perhaps I’ll just wither away silently and no-one will give two shits. Maybe I’ll have a funeral and it’ll just be Mum there, crying for her son that wasn’t for this life. His path was supposed to be different. Maybe it’ll be a good thing that I’m gone, it’ll ease the burden off everyone else.

Depression is a killer. I was only 22 then and I had already tried killing myself 3 times. It was from a time when there was only me and that damn TV in the house. There was no broadband internet back then. Nothing to numb the pain and send me into a dizzy spiral of sensory overload, no. It was just me and that fucking TV. I’ll never forget that year. I had nothing to do, no-one to speak with, and my Mum was out working for most of the day. I went from being the light and soul of the party to hermit in less than a month. The silence every day was deafening, depressing, worthless.

And I had no-one cheering me on. You see, depression isn’t something that you snap out of. It’s not something you get better from by a good shake, it’s a mind and body altering condition, and it can kill. I needed desperately for someone to believe in me, anyone. Just someone to come and give me a hug and tell me that, you know? You bloody well can do this! Everything will be ok.

Some sort of person to come along and be my cheerleading team. Cheerleading teams are an antidepressant — and boy have I had a few of them in my life. Those people that can look into your raw soul and see everything there is to know about you. Seek out that goodness, the diamonds in you, your shine, and pull it right the fuck out for the world to see. I needed that, but it didn’t happen until much later.

You see I had a drinking problem. I had worked out by now that I didn’t want to kill myself. 3 attempts later and it didn’t feel good — mentally or physically. So, I decided to screw myself up via alcohol. If I couldn’t end my life then I can make it so I could not feel another thing for the rest of my life. And thus began my heavier drinking stage. There was something inside me that just “broke” after my binge drinking session. I probably should have given up there and then. But I knew better of course. I was invincible back then, as we all are. I didn’t know at the time drinking is a catalyst for depression. Alcohol by definition is a “depressant” and it slowly paralyzes your central nervous system. Crazy, right? Here was me trying to solve my depression by using a depressant. Go figure.

Grief, loneliness, and underachievement were my Achilles heel. These three were the root of my depression. My Horcruxes so to speak. Once I tackled all three of them then I was able to heal. And heal I did. But it was a long drawn out process involving several professionals, lots of doctors visits, some amazing work colleagues, a beautiful and loving wife, and a loving son to finally get to a stage where I appreciate myself. We’re talking 18 years later. It’s not an easy ride. But talking, and involving other people did help. I got there in the end. Most aren’t as lucky as me.

If you’re reading this and it makes sense — don’t make the same mistake as I did and bottle it up! Talk to someone. A doctor, a good friend, anyone. It’s far better than keeping it inside like a dirty little secret.

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Do We Ever Become Adults?

Today I was interviewed by Roberto Perrone at BBC Radio to comment on this article:

It reports that people don’t become fully “adult” until they’re in their 30s, according to brain scientists. The article points out that these findings contrast with the legal position under UK law which states that you become a mature adult when you reach the age of 18.

Being not only a coach but also a trained lawyer I understand that, for legal reasons, we need to have a clear definition of when someone is deemed an adult in the eyes of the law. But the findings of the study by the University of Cambridge make complete sense to me. There is no specific point at which we suddenly become an adult. The study finds that people don’t become adults until their 30ies, but I would go even further than that:

What does adulthood even mean? Are we ever fully adult? I don’t think we are for two reasons.

Our brain never stops changing

Our brain never stops changing. Even in our forties or later, our neural pathways keep changing There is never a fully-grown and final version of our brain. This is something that we leverage in coaching. We help our clients become more effective by changing the way their neural pathways are switched.

Our “inner child” never leaves

Secondly, there is a part of our childhood that never leaves us. As children, we develop certain survival strategies that determine our personality and become hard wired in our brain. They stay with us throughout life. A great way to test this is to push someone’s buttons. Quite probably, you will see their inner child reacting. In stress situations we tend to default to the defense mechanism we created as children, for example sulking, withdrawing, rebelling or people pleasing. We all do this from time to time.

On the positive side, we also keep the beautiful gifts from our childhood. We experience them when we are curious, silly, when we dream, play or laugh.

Spot the inner child in other people

I love looking through people’s eyes to see their inner child. No matter how adult the façade, the inner child is always there. Sometimes, scared, sometimes playful and sometimes loving.

So is our brain ever fully developed? Are we ever fully adult? I don’t think so and that’s great!

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The 6 Step Process for Delivering Critical Feedback in a Constructive Way

We have all been in the position where we knew we needed to have a difficult conversation at work that involved delivering constructive feedback. Maybe a major deadline was missed, there was a clear decline in performance, or someone blatantly dropped the ball. Most of us avoid delivering the feedback, and the conversation can get pushed back again and again, wasting valuable time and money.

Delivering constructive feedback is challenging, and uncomfortable for most people, even highly trained leaders. Yet, delivering and accepting feedback is one of the most important keys for success. So why do we avoid these conversations? Because we never learned how to have them.

Open, honest, direct communication is not a skill we are taught in school. There is no “How to Have Tough Conversations” 101. As a clinical psychologist that specializes in couples work, I see just how important communication is in maintaining thriving relationships. I understand that good communication is the foundation of every successful relationship; both intimate relationships and your work relationships.

Below is a 6-step guide to providing constructive feedback:

Step 1: Clarity on the Goal of the Conversation  

The first step is to get clear on the goal of the feedback conversation. Are you planning to see a change in performance, simply communicate how you felt, or receive an apology? Get clear on what you are hoping to get out of the conversation. Be honest with yourself about what you need, what is most helpful to the relationship, and what is most helpful to the organization. Getting clear on the goal also ensures you are speaking with the right person.

“I think it’s very important to have a feedback loop, where you’re constantly thinking about what you’ve done and how you could be doing it better.” – Elon Musk

Step 2: Invitation

Set up a time to talk. Feedback conversations are not meant to be had in the hallway. It is important that both parties can set aside adequate time and have the space needed for dialogue. Additionally, there must be respect for both parties’ need for time to process information. For example, if you are delivering feedback, and the receiver needs time to process the feedback before responding, setting up a subsequent meeting will be most helpful.

Step 3: Ownership

Own the role you played in creating the situation. When you model ownership of blind spots, failures, or missteps, you set the stage for the receiver to do the same. For example, you may acknowledge that you were not aware of how to support your employee and not aware of the problem until x situation occurred. Equally important as owning your role, is owning your emotions. Own your emotions using “I” statements. For example, “I felt disappointed when I realized your sales performance had substantially declined”.

Step 4: Open, Honest, Direct Feedback

Feedback that dances around the problem does not do anyone any good. It only increases anxiety on behalf of the receiver, and potentially causes the feedback to get totally lost. The conversation needs to be open, honest, and direct. For example: “I felt concerned when you did not attend the last two strategy calls this month…It brought up questions for me about your commitment to the company.”

Step 5: Listen, Validate and Accept

When providing feedback, it is important both parties maintain an open mind, and respond in a way that communicates validation and acceptance. As soon as an individual gets defensive, feedback cannot be taken in, and the value of the conversation dramatically decreases. When providing feedback it is important to listen, validate, and accept your receiver’s viewpoint. Notice, I did not say agree. This looks something like saying: “I can see why X led you to commit Y , I understand you were under a great deal of stress/dealing with a personal situation/frustrated.”

“We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve.” – Bill Gates

Step 6: A Clear Plan for Moving Forward

In providing feedback, the magic is that now things can change! If feedback is never given, relationships end, things will stay the same, businesses will die, and money will be lost. If you have gotten to this step, that means you did the hard work, and now you get to put change into action. A clear plan includes an acknowledgement from both parties regarding what they will do differently to prevent the situation from occurring again, and how they will stay accountable in making the change happen.

The good news about delivering feedback is that the more you do it, the easier it gets. Remember, giving and receiving feedback is one of the most surefire ways to open yourself up to massive growth.

As a giver of feedback, it is your job to model openness and a desire for growth, so that the receiver may take in the feedback and make the necessary changes. Exceling at feedback delivery will help you set you apart from others and enable you to achieve extraordinary relationships, in both your personal and work lives.


Navigating My Son Through My Breakup

When I told my son a few months ago that the man we’d thought would be around for a long,
long while, and who had committed to be, was no longer going to be in our lives, he said, “Mom,
I am NEVER getting my hopes up if you date anyone ever again.”

My heart sank.

You try to safeguard your kids against things like this. And I don’t date just anyone. I am well-
educated, I try to make smart decisions, I listen to what men say and prefer to trust them, and I
know about child development, so I aim to take all things into consideration when introducing a
man into my child’s life. I had no idea I was setting either one of us up for what we experienced.

But this was the second man in two years to do a mighty disappearing act and never actually
say goodbye to my child, my then nine year old son, who absolutely loved these men. And I am
trying to raise a conscious little man, so the weight of this is significant. I wonder how it will
affect him, just as I wonder how divorce at age five will affect him, or his dad being in a
partnership but not mom. I want conscious partnership – not just any companion – and so the bar
is set high. But I want my son to see what conscious relationship can be, and it’s what I want to

Leaving without saying goodbye is shocking and full of unconscious, or shadow, motivation. It’s
hard to explain poor adult behavior to a child or to explain why he, too, would be disrespected,
when there is no good reason for it.

My son is loving. He’s sensitive and he will open his heart. I have a photo of him as a two and a
half year old extending his arm to help a little friend while she climbed the whole way over a hay
bale. I remember that day, just watching his positive intent. But as he gets older, he is more
prone to guardedness. He evaluates what is fair and he is navigating a world that is bigger and
seemingly harsher all the time.

So I modeled for him a healthy emotional process as I grieved, and sometimes I modeled a
messy emotional process. I invited him to share his process with me. I modeled noticing the
sensations in my body as I was navigating fear (tense) or grief (ache). I modeled how to feel
without identifying wholly with any one emotion – that emotions come and go. As we allow them
and sit with them, the emotions show us what they want to show us, and then they move on.
When we hold them up within ourselves and don’t allow ourselves to feel, that’s when emotions
become a problem. They get stuck. But otherwise, they’re not a problem and they are welcome
to be felt and expressed.

He’s permitted to do this. This is mindful parenting in action. All parts of us are accepted here.
This last breakup was completely unexpected, completely surprising, and it shook me in ways I
prefer not to be shaken. To navigate this as a couples/women’s/men’s coach was difficult
enough. To navigate this as a mother brought an extra heap of guilt.

I love the men that are present in my son’s life. I value each of them. My friend recently showed
up at the door and my son stood to greet him, and immediately received a lesson in how to give
a proper handshake with eye contact. Another friend recently spoke to my son on my behalf
when we were locked in a power struggle about respecting his mother. As a single woman, I do
not want to raise my son without a community of conscious men.

But I feared what these close examples of poor adult behavior were also teaching him – about
men, about relationship, about sticking around to talk out the sensations in the body, the fears,
the emotions. I feel sad that he has not had a proper example of that. My heart sinks to imagine
what this means for him as he grows older, with just his mom’s voice in his ear instead of
witnessing a close example of conscious union.

And then, one night I’m doing the dishes and he’s in the shower singing like he does, and I
catch the words. And I crept closer to the bathroom to listen in, and I smiled as some of my
worry relaxed. His little voice, with all the conviction of the original artist, sang, “I’m gonna make
a change, for once in my life. It’s gonna feel real good, gonna make a difference, gonna make it
right! I’m starting with the man in the mirror, I’m asking him to change his ways…”
You know the rest of the lyrics.

His dad put that song on his iPod for him. Given the conviction in his little voice as he sang,
perhaps the message, already at ten, is sinking in.

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Believing in Yourself and Going After Your Goals

My guest today is an accomplished speaker, leadership development expert, mentor, strategic advisor, and motivational expert. With 42 years of experience, Jim Cathcart has given over 3,200 speeches worldwide, including one of the most highly viewed TEDx talks of all time. Also the author of 19 books, including The Acorn Principle and Relationship Selling, Jim’s worldview and growth mindset are not only inspirational, but also powerful drivers for his success.

In this episode, Jim shares his incredible journey from being overweight and underpaid to getting into the best shape of his life and working with his personal heroes. Listen in to hear the pivotal moment that changed the course of his life, what holds too many of us back from our dreams, and advice for maximizing your potential to make an impact on the world.



  • The powerful decision that changed Jim’s life.
  • Tips for capitalizing on your potential.
  • Why it’s so important to continually push yourself.
  • A common way people sabotage themselves.
  • What the Acorn Principle is.
  • How people unnecessarily limit themselves.
  • The important mindset that leads to success.
  • What Jim says is at the base of most of the dysfunction in society.
  • Books that have impacted his life.
  • The amazing story of how he met and worked with his heroes.
  • Advice for aspiring leaders and entrepreneurs who want to make an impact on the world.

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The Horde is Getting Stronger in ‘She-Ra and the Princesses of Power’ Season 2

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The horde is growing in strength on ‘She-Ra’ season 2

I can’t say I watched the original She-Ra cartoon growing up. When I heard about She-Ra and the Princesses of Power coming out I wasn’t sure if it was going to be good or not. Season 1 ended up surprising me in many ways though. The animation style reminds me of Voltron Legendary Defender and the characters and effects are pretty amazing. Naturally I wasn’t that shocked when I heard it got a second season. I was able to watch screeners of season 2 and here is what I thought of them.

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You can read the plot for She-Ra and the Princesses of Power season 2 here:

Adora is firmly at the lead of the Princess Alliance, embarking on a quest of self-discovery to learn more about her past and her future as She-Ra. With Catra rising the ranks of the Horde, the Rebellion must fight to thwart her next attack.

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I had a lot of fun watching She-Ra and the Princesses of Power season 2. I was a bit bummed this season was shorter than the last one, but honestly not that surprised. We get to see some intense battles this season, and learn about the past of a few characters. We also get to meet the family of someone and see the princesses learn how to work together to defeat the Horde. If you liked last season then you won’t want to miss this one.

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She-Ra and the Princesses of Power season 2 premieres this Friday on Netflix. You can follow this show on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.

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Even Out of the Worst of Things Good Emerges

As I was going over some old papers, I came across an old Chinese story I heard long ago, and it filled me with hope about our future. I want to share it with you; it goes like this,

A poor farmer used an old horse to till his fields. One day, the horse escaped into the hills. When the farmer’s neighbors came to sympathize with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer replied, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?” A week later, the horse returned with a herd of horses from the hills. This time the neighbors congratulated the farmer on his good luck. His reply was, “Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?”

Then, when the farmer’s son was attempting to tame one of the wild horses, he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone believed this was terrible luck, and they came to console the farmer. But the farmer’s reaction was a familiar one, “Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?”

Some weeks later, the army marched into the village and conscripted every able-bodied youth they found there. When they saw the farmer’s son with his broken leg, they didn’t draft him, leaving him to stay with the farmer. Now was that good or bad luck? Who knows?

Everything that seems on the surface to be an evil may be a good in disguise. And everything that seems good on the surface may be an evil. We are wise when we leave it to God to decide what is good fortune and what is misfortune and thank him that all things turn out for good with those who love him.

Life events are neither good nor bad, they are transformative 

I love this story. It is a wonderful metaphor for life. When I reflect on how often I believed I was being punished for being less than perfect when things didn’t go my way, I realize how short-sighted I was. Time allowed me to discover that the particular life trial I experienced had been a blessing.

Being separated from my parents at an early age was extremely difficult. Reuniting with them four years later was not much better for that was when we experienced poverty, culture shock, discrimination and similar struggles immigrants suffer in the USA. Today, I am grateful for these experiences. They strengthened my character by adding perseverance, courage, serenity, humility, and hope. I also discovered that every life is important, no matter the circumstances. My beliefs today are rooted in those times.

My latest life transition is no different. Reeling from a series of circumstances that left me divorced, unemployed and relocated to a place where I knew no one, I was left wondering what would become of me. The scaffolding that held up my self-image had been dismantled and, for a while, I became discouraged and disoriented. Losing the worldly distractions that dominated my life initiated me into a spiritual transformation. From being a complete agnostic, I moved on from the false identity of my ego to the understanding I (and everyone else) am connected to the Higher Wisdom that runs the universe. Never have I been happier inside my skin, experienced so much joy and contentment, or feel so connected to everyone that comes into my life.

There can be no growth without struggle

Our ego fears suffering. It wants to be comfortable and safe, but this is a formula for stagnation, depression, and death. We avoid suffering because we don’t understand its purpose in our lives, yet we see its effects everywhere. The universe is ever expanding, learning and creating, it does not want to feel safe. It willingly struggles to bring life, it does not differ from a pregnant mother who willing labors to give way to her baby. Such are our life struggles; we suffer pain through the transitions but celebrate the new life they bring to us.

We can choose not to grow from our struggles but doing so will only generate similar conditions that will enable us to repeat the lesson unlearned.

Things to remember during difficult times

Sometimes, amid change and turmoil, you discover there is no parent, friend, money or even a God who can rescue you from suffering. These are the times you must trust a Higher Source created you with all the capabilities of managing all of your life challenges.

Perspective is the greatest gift from persevering. The Chinese farmer in the story knew to look at things for the long term. He understood life is more a marathon than a sprint. Reflect on the past and see how you were able to overcome very difficult tests. It was hard to see the good while in the middle, but now you see their benefit. Only now are you able to see you were never alone, there was always guidance coming from within helping you one step at a time. You have everything you need; you don’t have to be afraid of what comes, you will succeed if you don’t give up.

A Higher Consciousness deliberately created you with a purpose that the world needs. Struggles provide the energy to break through the patterns you have outgrown so that your real self can emerge.

As always, wishing you a life filled with joy, love, and serenity.

Previously published here and reprinted with the author’s permission.

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